The Power of Being Your True Self: Why Your Authentic Energy Triggers Others (And What to Do About It)

Mapule Shilubane
Jul 14
3 min read

Discover why being your authentic, soft, and radiant self often triggers others, and how to stay true to yourself in a world that thrives on performance.

Learn how to navigate relationships with grace, compassion, and self-love.

In the journey of feminine awakening, one of the hardest yet most beautiful lessons is this: When you are your true self, soft, radiant, and unapologetically whole not everyone will celebrate you.

Why Authentic Feminine Energy Can Trigger Others

The moment you stop performing and start embodying your truth, your energy begins to shift.

It becomes subtle but potent. Quiet, but commanding. Soft, yet unshakable.

You are no longer trying to prove . You are no longer chasing validation . You are simply being.

And that beingness? It’s magnetic, but it’s also deeply triggering for those still trapped in patterns of overdoing, comparison, or self-denial.

Your authenticity becomes a mirror.

Some will resent it.

Some will try to compete with it.

Some will even mock it.

Not because you’re wrong, but because your energy reflects where they’re not free.

This is especially common in close relationships, family, friends, coworkers, where your soft glow begins to shift the unspoken dynamics.

Suddenly, your calm feels disruptive.

Your gentleness feels powerful.

Your truth feels too loud even in silence.

How to Stay True in the Face of Being Misunderstood

So, how do you stay rooted in your feminine power when others project their discomfort onto you?

1. Be Kind to Yourself

Start with self-compassion. This journey of being seen in your truth can be tender. You don’t need to armor up, you just need to love yourself more deeply than ever before.

2. Practice Soft Boundaries

Soft doesn’t mean weak. You’re allowed to choose peace over performance. You’re allowed to disengage from draining dynamics without guilt. Boundaries are an act of devotion to your nervous system and your sacred glow.

3. Remember: Your Energy Speaks Louder Than Action

In a world obsessed with “doing,” your ability to just be, softly, clearly, and consistently,

is revolutionary. You don’t have to raise your voice. Your frequency does the talking.

4. Don’t Dim to Fit In

Those who are meant for your frequency won’t ask you to shrink.

They will feel you and rise with you. The rest may fall away, let them.

The Feminine Frequency of Truth

Your authentic energy is a light. Sometimes, it’s the only light in the room. And while it might cause shadows to stir, it also creates the space for others to awaken.

Your softness is not a threat, it is a recalibration.

Your truth is not “too much”, it is medicine.

Your presence is not passive, it is power.

My Role on Your Path of Softness

I am Mapule Mammita, feminine wellness guide, womb whisperer, and founder of

Pink Milk Feminine Welnness & Natural Luxury . Since 2010, I’ve walked alongside women choosing to soften in a world that demands they harden. Through ritual, skincare, sacred ceremony, and soul mentoring, I help women reconnect with their bodies,

their rhythms, and their truth.

My role is to gently walk you home to yourself.

To remind you that softness is not a weakness, it is a spiritual technology.

That rest is not laziness, it is holy.

That your feminine energy is not chaotic, it is cosmic.

Whether through the The Soft Life Reset Temple™ journey,

Pink Milk feminine skin & body care, or

the Wild Feminine Retreats we host under African skies,

my devotion remains the same:

To create spaces where women remember.

To build altars for softness.

To contribute to a feminine collective that no longer performs, but simply is.